Hey,
Before I get into today's lesson, please check out Bobby
Rio's amazing video on texting women into bed if
you haven't already.
One of the most frustrating things is when you get
a woman's number (and she seems to be totally into you)
... But then after a few texts she seems to lose interest,
fizzle out, or go cold.
The natural reaction is to blame the woman. "She's a
flake..."
But if you do that, you could missing a giant crink
in YOUR GAME that is easier to fix than you think.
In fact, if you're like most guys than you're probably
just making one of these common texting
mistakes that will kill your chances with a girl.
MISTAKE: Confusing Responses for Attraction
Before you've had your first date with a girl, she won't
feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it
may be, you're probably not the only guy texting her.
See, a common mistake most guys make when they're
texting a girl is that they mistake responses for
attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from
a girl, he believes that he's getting closer to getting
her on a date or to seducing her.
The exact opposite is true!
The more texts you send before meeting up with girl
means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting
up with her!
That's right: even if a girl is RESPONDING
to your texts, you're not getting yourself ANY closer
to actually getting her out on a date.
Instead, say more with less. Whenever you're considering
what to text a girl, see if you can say it simpler, with less
text.
Most guys send pointless texts to women like, "How's
your day?" or "Enjoying the warm weather?" These texts DO
NOT bring you ANY closer to a woman! They just beg for a
response (which doesn't mean anything).
To make sure you NEVER again waste texts on pointless chatter,
ask yourself this golden question:
How is this text bringing this girl and I closer to a date?
If your answer is simply "to get her to know her better,"
erase the text. It's not going to help you.
MISTAKE: Not Conveying "Fun"
Here is the simple truth. When a woman gives you her number
she is NOT signing a social contract to go out with you...
And until it seems FUN for her... she's probably not going
to bother meeting up with you.
So when you send boring texts that don't display any
personality or don't elicit any emotions in her... in her
mind you're not worth the trouble of meeting up with.
Here are some signs you're NOT being fun.
- Am I being stiff and formal "Hi. It was nice meeting you
friday".... (too stiff. too formal)
- Am I putting pressure on her to keep the convo going?
- Am I badering her with question?
Remember, every text you send should make you seem like
the FUN OPTION. The escape from her boring day.
So if you've been making these texting mistakes now is
the time to STOP making them.
If fact, Bobby's special video shows you exactly how you
can accomplish everything you need to accomplish with
just three texts.
Best,
Jon