Derek Sivers did a TED talk on this called "Keep your goals to yourself"
Basically he says telling someone your goal makes it less likely that you'll reach your goal. If you tell it someone, you already feel good - without doing any work.
Very good advice, especially for new guys. I've always been more of a relationship and connection type of guy. I've had my wild times, but my greatest memories are from relationships with girls that I trusted and was emotionally invested in.
Even as someone who had a lot of experience growing up, I found myself being a victim of goal hijacking when I found the SUISC. I went out and racked up numbers, but it seemed the higher my numbers got, the emptier I became on the inside. That's me though. I prefer a solid connection and nice build up to sex.
Recently, I've been really sorting out all of the bad programming of some of the so called gurus in the industry and I'm getting back to focusing on connecting with girls, feeling positive emotions, and enjoying the process of meeting and attracting women. I'm not focused on the numbers and results so much and I don't care what anybody on the boards or in the lairs or anywhere else thinks.
Goal hijacking - interesting way to put it. This has been a huge problem for me in business. I heard a quote once, something like "Most people are too visionary to get anything done", people set up too many goals and missions and can`t follow through with any of them fully, because they get too many new ideas before executing the first one. It sounds like a similar thing to me.
Derek Sivers did a TED talk on this called "Keep your goals to yourself"
ReplyDeleteBasically he says telling someone your goal makes it less likely that you'll reach your goal. If you tell it someone, you already feel good - without doing any work.
After reading this I am going to the gym after all :-)
ReplyDeleteVery good advice, especially for new guys. I've always been more of a relationship and connection type of guy. I've had my wild times, but my greatest memories are from relationships with girls that I trusted and was emotionally invested in.
ReplyDeleteEven as someone who had a lot of experience growing up, I found myself being a victim of goal hijacking when I found the SUISC. I went out and racked up numbers, but it seemed the higher my numbers got, the emptier I became on the inside. That's me though. I prefer a solid connection and nice build up to sex.
Recently, I've been really sorting out all of the bad programming of some of the so called gurus in the industry and I'm getting back to focusing on connecting with girls, feeling positive emotions, and enjoying the process of meeting and attracting women. I'm not focused on the numbers and results so much and I don't care what anybody on the boards or in the lairs or anywhere else thinks.
Goal hijacking - interesting way to put it. This has been a huge problem for me in business. I heard a quote once, something like "Most people are too visionary to get anything done", people set up too many goals and missions and can`t follow through with any of them fully, because they get too many new ideas before executing the first one. It sounds like a similar thing to me.
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