The Importance Of Relaxation In Pickup

One of the biggest things I've realized as
I've gotten better with women, is that one
of the core skills related to socializing
in general is the ability to relax befor
and during a conversation.

The ability to be relaxed, especially
during the beginning of a cold approach,
conveys a lot of things about you. It shows that
you are confident, used to being around
beautiful women, comfortable.

Plus it allows the woman to relax.

I remember when I started approaching
"hotter" girls, I realized something
startling. There were certain types
of girls I could approach and actually
feel "cooler" than. Some of them were
even extremely attractive. When I approached
these girls, I'd ALWAYS do well, because
I was relaxed "Knowing" I'd do well with
them.

But for whatever reason, they weren't
the kinds of girls I really wanted.

And those girls(The ones I really wanted),
would make me a nervous,mess.

I would stammer, speak softly and weakly,
avoid eye contact.

All because I REALLY wanted them and because
of that I made the interaction WAY too important.

This buildup made it nearly impossible for me to
relax when I approached them.

Even when I ALREADY knew what to do and could do it
successfully with other girls.

So what did I do?

Two things.

First I progressively desensitized myself by FORCING
myself to talk to every hot girl I saw even if it was
just to squeak out a "hi"and run away.

Secondly I learned some relaxation techniques like
15 second breaths, Achievement statements, and muscular
relaxation techniques. But more importantly I focused all
my attention(after I started a conversation) on relaxing.
Sometimes I'd even look for a little flaw on the girl to
help myself not be intimidated by her looks.

And now I can talk to any girl, anywhere, regardless of their
looks or the situation while staying totally relaxed at all times.

Especially with the girls I REALLY like.

I'd also recommend daily stretching and meditation to help
with creating a more laid back presence both physically and
mentally.

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