Enemy Vs Ally centered existances

One of the things that I notice immediately now when I meet people, is how they define themselves in the world.

There's the obvious ways people do this like being positive, negative, thrill seeking, etc...

But it goes deeper, one thing I notice a lot in students especially ones who experience a little success, is that they live enemy centered existences. Every guy is a "chode" to be blown out. Every girl is a " bitch" to be brought down a peg. When combined with another unhealthy thought pattern taught in community known as the " Value paradigm". You become a really nasty person to be around. I know cause I used to do the same things. The problem is it leads to a lot of problems. You will alienate a lot of people ( I used to), you'll miss out on a lot of cool people because they are not cool based on the community's model of "high value" and ultimately you will end up alone.

Instead you want to adopt a ally based viewpoint. You want to assume people are going to be friendly to you( you're usually right), you want to assume that people will be happy to talk to you, and that the girl's friends will help you hook up with her. Tim from RSD has talked about the idea of seeing cheerleaders instead of obstacles. This is about seeing friends not enemies and acting accordingly. I mean you wouldn't be nervous talking to friends right?

Tomor I'll write about the value paradigm and how that can harm you as well...

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