Hey guys,
Lance over at Honey and Lance emailed me to ask me a few questions about dating.
I figured I'd post them here first as they're pretty interesting questions.
Here are the questions:
1. Based on your experience, what is your perspective on modern dating
and how has it evolved in the last decade or so?
A: My experience with dating comes almost exclusively from women I've met off of cold approaches. In fact I think I can count the times I've met girls through friends on my toes and fingers. But to me dating has probably never been much different. The idea that everyone ends up with someone that is awesome and perfect for them seems much more like the extreme rather than the norm. That said, you have to date a lot of women or men to meet one you'll really be into. That's just the facts, unfortunately most people are not right for you. Even if you really want them to be. So you have to be open to the idea that to get a great relationship, you have to get out there.
As for how dating has evolved in the past few years, I think the rise of the internet and websites like Facebook, Myspace and HotorNot, has altered the dating landscape forever. You also have an increased lack of intimate communication with the almost universal adaptation of text messages. I'm curious to see how technology will continue to impact the dating landscape.
2. How has pickup affected the playing field, and do you see pickup
going mainstream any time soon?
I don't think pick up will ever truly go mainstream, because the content is too out there for most people. It's hard to explain away the manipulative aspect of changing yourself for the better to get women. Throw in the random cast of characters from a magician who dresses like the Cat in the Hat, to a 50 year old who openly talks about hypnotizing women into giving him blowjobs, and I think it's a tough sell. Hopefully the guys who are really normal and progressive in their methods will continue to come to the forefront. Because I think the perception of the community is fairly different from what I think a lot of these guys actually want.
3. Where do you see dating & courtship headed in the future, like in
10 or 20 years from now?
I don't really think dating will change much. Women and men will always find a way to get together. As for dating science, I think it will be around and advancing for as long as we continue to date. I think a lot of the techniques and tactics will evolve and a lot of what we believe to work now, will probably be revealed to be less accurate than we think. I'm excited to see where the body of knowledge is headed.
4. Do you see any evolutions or new trends emerging in dating / relationships?
I think that everyone is starting to finally realize that getting laid is not that hard, once you have a decent identity, fashion sense, and an absence of social and sexual anxiety. However after a little while that starts to become incredibly empty and that the true path to happiness and longevity in the game is finding women you're attracted to whom you have a high level of compatability with. What this means is you need to figure out who you are and what you want FIRST. I always say this to girls, but it's true the most important person in any relationship is you.
5. What's your best piece of advice for someone jumping into the
dating pool? How about looking for a healthy relationship?
For someone who's just getting into the dating scene, I'd highly recommend they check out my free ebook The Game Acceleration doctrine that you can download Here. In it, I lay down the fundamentals of how to become (for lack of a better word) a normal guy. It focuses on fashion, dealing with both sexual and social anxiety, body language, tonality and all the stuff you need to get started meeting women. If we can all agree on the idea that people can learn how to get better at dating, it's time we established what the base levels are for guys who have been anti-social for a few years.
For those who are looking for a healthy relationship, I'd reccomend getting started by figuring out what kind of girl or guy you think you'd get along with long term. This is a time to be really honest and make a list of 10 NON physical characteristics you want in a partner. Then make a seperate list of WHERE a person like that would hang out. Now you know where to start looking. Then make sure that you're open and honest about what you want early on, and treat the person the way you want your relationship to be. Don't do a ton of things early on that you won't be doing later, because then you'll see problems once the "honeymoon" period ends.
6. What's on the horizon for Sinn in 2009?
Next year, I'll be releasing 4 different products. First I'll be releasing the Day Game product in conjunction with Love Systems. This product will be everything you ever wanted to know about meeting women during the day. The next product will be a 1 hour DVD on natural attraction. In it I explain how there are underlying mechanisms that cause attraction built in to many routines, but if you can understand these mechanisms you'll never be at a loss for material ever again. I believe this is the first time anyone has actually showed you what you need to be in order to attract women naturally. Finally I'll be releasing my seminars on Same Night Lays and Breaking out of The Friend Zone.
Personally I'll be living in a different city every month starting in May. I'm writing a book called 12 Cities in 12 Months about trying to find a city to live in. I'm also going to be running my coaching program and doing one bootcamp a month in each city.
Pretty excited about that!
S
So I guess the SNL seminar you're releasing is a DVD product?
ReplyDeleteTo anyone who is reading this, Sinn really knows what he is talking about. While he may have some quirky sides (not obvious though), his stuff is really one of the best out there and I can't wait to try them.
ReplyDeleteI was personally there at his seminar in Sydney and it was an intense 2 days, staying till around 2am in the seminar room listening to all his stuff - he really knew what he was talking about.
I know I don't need to and wasn't asked to, but I would like to write a testimonial when his product DOES come out.
Sinn really makes you UNDERSTAND pick-up, and doesn't just tell you to make up long-winded and hollywood-esque. Sinn's breakthroug comfort is very dangerous if you understand it, and his day game is the best, most eye-opening things on the market out there. Personally I think he is being way too generous for releasing this stuff for anything less than 5K. This IS the real deal and it will take a LONG time for anything else on the market to come close to the concepts he introduces.
Please note that I am not affiliated with Sinn or Love systems. I'm just a guy who has read a lot of pick-up theory, and I can honestly say this is one of the best, it's up there along with David D's material.
Andre`
interesting read, sinn!
ReplyDeletedefinitely enjoyed reading this and i'm excited about the upcoming products! sounds great!
thanks,
-jay
Thanks Sinn.
ReplyDeleteI can't wait for your Day Game product.
Sinn,
ReplyDeleteWhere do you post your bootcamp dates? I poked around your site, but wasn't able to find anything.
Thanks,
- TR
Any chance for a product on Breakthrough Comfort and/or how you mix it up with sexual framing? Reading just the one or two posts you made about it last year, along with a few of Future's old blog posts, turned my game from that of an adolescent cocky prick with no success to a sweet, but very sexual, style that makes girls genuinely feel great about themselves - and get to like me in the process. And it's probably the most unique and uncovered topic yet in the community...
ReplyDeleteThis past week you recorded Day Game, SNL, and Break Through Comfort. So you're putting out Day Game first, SNL towards the end of the year.... when's Break Through Comfort coming out, with the breaking out of the friend zone product?
ReplyDeleteCan't wait for Sinn 09!
ReplyDelete"it's up there along with David D's material."
ReplyDeleteThat's pretty bad man.
12 cities? where ohhh where?
ReplyDeletei want you to bring out a product on threesomes! you're the absolutely best out there in all terms and by all definitions. a product from you on that topic would be the shit!!!! seriously, think about it! -XstyleX
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