Tempo and vibing Pt 1

Tempo: The rhythm of the interaction. The speed of it. You can use different rhythms to create different results. For example if you are really teasing a girl, the faster the rhythm of the jokes and teases is faster like a machine gun ba..ba..ba..ba..ba..ba. Where as in a more controlled energy level the jokes come slower ba......ba.....................ba..................ba

You want to slow the interaction down as much as possible. Because as you slow the energy level down to the lowest possible level, you can then lead her. That's why most guys have dancing monkey syndrome, is that they don't immediately tone the energy level down. Or if they do, they don't know where they want to take her.

In fact the lower the energy level you can open at, the more ability to lead you have.

The tempo of your delivery is the most important part as you don't want to have a mismatching of your rhythm to the groups. The rhythms have to match. That's what Style was saying when he suggested joining a set at an equal or slightly higher energy level. This is good for getting into a set, but if you go higher you're now taking her away from where you want her to be. Higher energy is not helpful to the outcome we're looking for. In fact you want her to slow down so that you can start putting the right thoughts in her head via imagery, frames, and value elicitation.

Vibing is talking without expressing judgment on anything the other person says or does. Getting along. The word vibe is chosen for a specific reason though as it suggests a smooth agreeable rhythm.

I'll fill some more in later...