Self discipline, is one of the most important skills you can ever learn.
And that's exactly what it is, a skill. The major mistake most people make when they undertake this journey into community, is expecting to get it all done at once. There is no magic pill. It doesn't matter how much you read, or how often you go out, there will NEVER be instant results. Instead you see small progress a lot for a long time. Until one day you wake up and you forget what it was like to be bad with women.
But to get to that point, you have to be willing to walk through the fucking fire. Style talks about the pain period and how it separates chumps from champs, and it's so true. You have to be fucking disciplined. You have to be able to look at what you are getting (results), what you want to get(outcome) and how you can go about it (steps).
SO the first step toward self discipline IMO is to figure out HONESTLY what results you are getting now and why. When I started I hadn't had sex in a year and a half after losing my virginity.... That's about as low of a place as you can start at. Then I thought about what I wanted(or thought I wanted) and I started to go out and do approaches as I had no social circle to get laid through. I didn't even get laid for the 1st 6 months I was doing mall approaches. I had a couple of dates and LMR a few times and then i broke through and realized that I could get laid off cold approaches. That was huge. Then I had like 7 more lays in the 4 months before I took a TMM program.
But even after that I constantly monitored my SPs. I knew qualification was where I was weakest, so I revised the model to make it work better, until my qualification was the best in the community and I was able to teach about it at Cliffs List in 05. Then I went on to the next SP.
It's a constant process, but you always have the choice of doing something that will lead you coser to your goals or further away from them. Making the right choice is self discipline.
S
I agree 100%, there are 3 stages i believe. First is when you discover this and spend a few months reading about it before u decide to get outside and start applying what you know. Second is when you spend a few months doing the odd approach here and there trying to get the courage before you think 'fuck it' and start doing it every day. The third is when you realise you can approach and get some success and you think 'right all i have to do now is work out my weak points and il be the man'.
ReplyDeleteAt the mo im almost at the end of stage 2. Im at the point where ive done approaches and its soo hard to get the willpower to keep going, but its gonna happen very soon.
Good post Sinn.
Good post.
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This was a great post, especially for guys like me who are intrested in this stuff, but haven't really invested any time in it yet. It really made me think about what I'm getting myself into and what I'm going to have to go through to get real results.
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Jwood
Awesome post! It's so true. For all parts of our lives. Each word.
ReplyDeleteinspiring sinn. keep these types of post comming.
ReplyDeletewhen you where doing your pre program approaches. where you following any specific school of though? or was it just real simple open -> banter/rapport -> close.