On Demonstrating Value Part 2: It's Not a video game!

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"You Already Know What I'm About"- On Managing Expectations

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Re-visiting Pick-Up Dogma Part 2: On Demonstrating value

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Maxxing Out Your Look

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Maximizing Yourself Out

Lately I've been really inerested in the idea of a guy maxxing himself out or maximizing his lifestyle, skillset, and inner psych.

Most people are not going to max out with a supermodel, a Ferrari and a life of lounging on the beach, but it's a much better goal to aim for than the ones usually pushed on guys by the SUISC.

So how does one max out?

First you have to take an honest (and you'd be SHOCKED by how many guys lie to me while asking for help) look at where you are.

You start with the physical, are you worse looking than you could be? Then you look at your living situation, your job, friends, social life etc...

The point is it's a long process but it's the only way to see real long term change and to actually reach your potential.

Plus most guys (myself included) are nowhere near where they could be with a little effort.

JS

About Captain Jack

Hey there,

I know I've been getting some ?s about CJ and you're all quite persistent so here goes:

CJ is cool, he's working really hard right now doing the marketing for a multimillion dollar company, that's going through a huge growth phase right now.

His website is down because of some mix up with the hosting company. So even though he still owns Betheseducer.com they won't restore his content. Sucks right?

Other than that he seems to be in good spirits and has been focusing on meditation and spirituality as well as cleaning up his health and stuff.

He didn't seem to be going out much the last time we talked which was probably a month or so ago.

So there ya go,

JS

This Blog Is For Guys Who Are Bad With Women

I've been getting a rash of comments over the last few weeks giving super simplified advice as a juxtaposition to what I'm writing.

What these assclowns don't understand is that the advice "Just fuck her" is not particularly useful for the guys who read this blog.

Guys who read this blog generally are more hard cases (as I was and as EVERYONE who googles pickup advice etc is).

Sooo when you MR armchair pickup guru give advice that I'm sure works for you and your jabronie friends (as you must be so completely overwhelmed with pussy that you have time to comment on blogs designed to help you get laid more) it is annoying and frustrating for guys who are the actual target audience I'm writing to.

The guys I write this blog for need help and date ideas, and conversational topics and overviews of how to talk to women. Otherwise they wouldn't be coming here to read my 1100 and something post over the last 6 years. And those guys are the reason I still write this blog even when it seems as though I've exhausted every way to talk about pickup in writing...

If you want to brag about how awesome you are be a condescending prick, you can do it somewhere else as I will now be blocking those comments. All comments telling me I suck and should die of a horrible disease will still be allowed as those make me LOL.

Good talk,

JS

Good Date Spot-Theme Parks

I went to Magic Mountain yesterday and it is a surprisingly good place to take a date(other than the glaring need for alcohol).

Most theme parks are btw $ 30-40 a person and can be fun for 4-6 hours easy. So it's not WAY more expensive than going out for a few drinks in a city like LA, NY or Vegas.

Plus it's a lot of fun, gets the heart going, and gives PLENTY of opportunity for built in conversation. I definitely am going to start taking more dates there.

Word.

JS

End Of The Year Already...

Man every year goes by faster and faster...

Now is as good a time as ever to look back over your goals for dating over the last year and how close you came to achieving them.

And if you didn't it's a good time to start planning for next year, as nightlife will take a down turn after this Wed until New Year's Eve with the holiday/boyfriend season in full swing.

JS

The 1% fantasy and how it's ruining your life

How many people do you think are actually millionaires in the US? Not millionaire on paper.

How many people are famous?

How many guys sleep with more than 1 new girl a week?

Hint it's a really low percentage of people...

Like 1% of 1% of the population.

The point is that any of these goals (which 90% of people reading this have in one form or another) are going to be REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY hard to accomplish.

Is it possible?

Sure but 99% of you are not going to be willing to put in the time effort or energy needed to have a chance of success.

And 99% of the ones of you who do put in the time effort and energy are still NOT going to make it due to luck, health, bad breaks, or changes in priorities.

Now that I've suitably depressed you, let's talk about the good part of this news.

The good part is that NONE of you actually want these fantasies. What you want is the feeling that the fantasy would allow you to have.

You want to make 10 Million dollars? Why? What would change in your life if you had 10 mil right now? Besides the superficial, you'll probably find something like "I would be less stressed about security and able to focus on what I like doing."

You want to sleep with 100 girls? Why? What would that do for you? Would it make you feel cooler? Would it make you feel like a success with women. What would it do for you?

And more importantly when you ask yourself these questions, is there something you could be doing right now, that would give you the same or similar feelings?

Chances are there is, people don't do things for the surface reasons. People who want to be famous have their reasons for it usually having to do with needing to prove their value to people, people who want to sleep around a lot are looking for something as well. Even guys who want to get girlfriends are looking for some emotional fix....

So the solution is 2 fold:

1. Let go of the 1% of 1% fantasy. Just give it up, we are all the rule not the exception.

2. Figure out what you were actually trying to get emotionally from that 1% fantasy and see if there is a more realistic healthy and sustainable way to achieve it.

That is all.

JS

I'm Not Saving The World

Hey there,

I was gone the last two weeks first to a positivity nazi conference where I was officially the most hated on man in the world, and then recovering for a week where I mostly over-ate and smoked a lot of pot.

But now I'm back, and I wanted to talk about something I've been thinking about since I heard another "guru" talking about how he was changing the world one guy at a time or some other such super lame oversimplification of what we do in the SUISC.

It's also at this point in the listening that I feel like yelling at the speaker like Mark Wahlberg in "The Departed"

" Do you know what we do here?"

" No you don't, if you knew what we do here we would not be good at our job. We would be pricks. You calling us pricks?"

But I digress.

I am not saving the world by teaching guys how to get better at sleeping with chicks.

You can use slippery slope logic or tell me all about the 1 guy who really needs this stuff or he's going to kill himself all you want.

The truth is still the truth. And the truth is it's kinda weird to teach guys how to pick up chicks. You can spin it all you want and engage in self deception to make yourself(the "guru") feel better about it the same way other guys who are good with gilrs justify cheating on their GFs. The human mind is amazingly good at convincing us that what we want to do is OK.

This is the truth:

This is NOT a Men's movement.

This is NOT making the world a better place.

This is NOT one day going to be taught in colleges.

This is not some secret knowledge that will change the world once made public.

You are NOT necessarily a better more whole person just because you can get laid consistently.

And NOT all men are interested in learning this stuff.

These are the facts, not some grand delusion I come up with to make myself feel better so I can go to sleep at night.

I know my stuff works and it does what I say it will do.

No more, no less.

If you want to learn how to get better at sleeping with girls I'm your guy.

If you want some sort of guru type who is going to take you by the hand and tell you about how great pickup is and how it's changing the world,and how you're special because you know about it, you should probably find someone else.

Just keeping it 100.

JS-The King Of Content

HappY Halloween!

It's officially Halloween today!

I've had an awesome Halloween weekend but I just realized that we've been having a massive Halloween sale for our email list subscribers that I haven't shared with you blog readers... YET

It's a great deal with almost all of our products at a huge discount to help you get out there and meet the girl of your dreams TONIGHT.

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SALE

Word

JS

Today In Fuck You: People who tell you how in love they are two weeks after they start dating.

This is a particularly relevant topic here, as guys who teach pick up are the # 1 offenders of this particular brand of douchbaggery.

I HATE it when someone (guy, girl, whatever) goes on and on about how they're so in love with this new person they're dating, when they've only been dating a few weeks, and or are not yet in a serious BF/GF relationship.

Seriously you need to stop, before I lose my shit and start mocking you for being the naive and emotionally needy loser you are.

First of all, no one else cares! I don't give a shit. I mean of all the things in the world whether or not you're insanely happy with your new BF/GF whatever really doesn't matter. And I don't think I'm speaking for just me, when I say there are roughly 9,876,142 things I care about more than the status of your 2 week old relationship.

Secondly for whatever reasons ( Probably because I'm friends with community guys and players) the same guys who spend 74 hours yakkking my ear off about how in love they are, cheat on these same girls like a month later.

If you cheat on a girl you spent over an hour telling me you were in in love with, I should be allowed a free hour of wasting your time talking about the subject of my choice which will be "Chardee Mcdennis: The Game Of Games."

Lastly lest someone think this is some sort of rant against being in love or being happy in your relationship, it's not. I think it's fine to be in love and in a relationship. But that doesn't happen in 2 weeks. The same way they advise couples not to tell people they're pregnant for the first few months in case something happens. My problem is specifically with the people who spend an inordinate amount of time talking to others (namely me) about how they're sooo in love and happy in their relationship, when the relationship just started last Tuesday, or they are clearly not in a serious relationship and just want attention or something to talk about.

To those people I say : FUUUUCCCCKKKKKKK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

To everyone else have a great Halloween weekend.

JS

Re-Visiting Pick-up Dogma Part 1: Being non-reactive

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Goal Hijacking

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The Counter Productives

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Oh Really Bitch? An Open Letter To Diane Passage

Diane Passage was married to Kenneth Star the super rich "financial advisor" now serving 7 years in jail for his role in a huge ponzi scheme.

It seems that for some reason the New York Post (Noted employer of former of prostitutes) thought it would be a good idea to give this (Unsuccessful) gold digging former stripper a chance to write about what it takes to get what you want from men.

Here's a link to the article:

Why Dumb ass Skanks should be quiet

It's quite a read, if you can stop yourself from throwing up while reading it.

So she got to make her points and now it's my turn to retort.

This dumb whore wrote(My remarks in Bold):

"Women are powerful. That’s what I’ve learned from a lifetime of socializing with just about every type of female — from exotic dancers to socialites to successful businesswomen.

But I wasn’t aware of just how powerful women can be until I worked at several gentlemen’s clubs, including Scores. My guy friends said a gentlemen’s club must be the best place to work ever, because men just give money to the dancers. Far from it! The dancers — including me — worked hard every night. Imagine how difficult it is to sell a dance to a customer or a $500-plus-per-hour private room when he already knows that nothing sexual can happen! How do you get that customer to keep coming back? It was a sales job — one that involved torturous sky-high stilettos and wrestling matches with drunk, horny customers.

Still, the skills I learned at the clubs empowered me to accomplish bigger and better things outside of it. Such as raising money for charities, running my own company, and now — and most importantly — rebuilding a solid life for me and my 13-year-old son, Jordan, after a family crisis."

The Skills she learned at the strip club taught her to raise her son. He should change his name from Jordan to no chance.


Dumb whore again:

"2. I can create my own outcome and accomplish any goal. I like to set goals for anything — serious or ridiculous. I started doing this when I worked at the club; I’d set weekly income goals to help me stay focused and not get onto a downward spiral (which is typical for exotic dancers). Along the way I set fun goals — attending certain concerts, parties, etc. My most ridiculous goal? Hooking up with a certain male porn star. A friend of mine offered to buy the star for me for one night, but I declined. It’ll be far more satisfying to accomplish my goal on my own. Whether your goals are serious, fun or both — never think you can’t have it all!"

Yes as a mother clearly having a goal to hook up with a male pornstar is a great and challenging goal. Also I find it funny she says most dancrs end up in a downward spiral but doesn't mention her marrying a conman.


Dumb ass:

3. Slow and steady wins the race. While goals are important, you shouldn’t set unrealistic time limits to achieve them. People do crazy things under deadlines. An acquaintance of mine stalked a man because she was obsessed with getting married before the age of 35. Last year, she fell head over heels on one of her first dates. On Facebook, she saw he was looking forward to a sushi dinner at his favorite restaurant. My friend knew where to find him, because he’d mentioned the same restaurant on their date! So early in the evening, she planted herself at a table with a good view of the place. He showed up . . . with another date. This woman is seemingly sane otherwise. If she dropped the marriage deadline and just had fun dating, I bet she’d end up meeting her goal — without stalking!

Now this dumb bitch is contradicting herself from her last point always a sign of intelligent writing.

We're now at my 2nd favorite thing she wrote:

"4. Every girl should know the basics of fishing and dog training. Several years ago, my son took an interest in fishing. I had to learn, too, so I could help him with it. Little did I know that my basic fishing knowledge would end up serving me well in the world of romance! When dating, I like to try a fun and sporty approach. As the person who’s fishing, I’m able to lead my “fish,” so I have the advantage of getting what I want. My bait: smile, hair, makeup, clothing, stilettos and either legs or cleavage (never both at the same time). My hook: a flirty, mysterious demeanor. When I “reel” a man in, that means I’m getting to know him. He always has the option to free himself from my “hook.” And I always have the option to throw him back into the dating sea. If I decide to keep my “fish,” then I switch to boundary-setting mode. I’ve trained a dog, raised a son and have been married twice to men who wanted nothing more than to make me happy. I know how not to let a male dominate me. The one consistent thing for all types of men: consistent enforcement of boundaries and giving rewards when they deserve them."

As we all know treating human beings like dogs or fish is a healthy and normal way to start any relationship and does not in any way lead to game playing or other immature power games. Also I find it hilarious that she mentions she's been married twice to men who wanted to make her happy. Before the divorce.

Now time for my absolute favorite:

"5. My wallet does not exist. It might sound like an outdated cliché, but if you’re a woman, you should never reach into your wallet while you’re in the presence of a man. Even if you’ve been married for years. Not only must a man pay for the main components of a date (dinner, etc.), but they must also take care of taxi fare, coat check and bathroom attendant tips. The woman who believes in this mantra is not a gold-digger or obligated to “return the favor.” The few times I’ve gone “dutch” on dates, it usually results in the man feeling emasculated because of it — or it means the guy has some sort of money hang-up. Can an emasculated guy or someone with issues give you what you want? Not for me!"

Really? I mean you know this is gonna be read by people. You're basically saying a guy should give you cash when you go to the bathroom to tip the attendents??? Are you out of your fucking mind? And I believe that the term for a woman who only goes out with a guy because he pays for everything is gold digger.

Oh wait actually, I lied. This is my favorite part.

"8. As a woman, it’s my right to act bitchy on occasion. When a man first approaches me, I’m icy cold and dismissive. The weak men leave. The ones who are up for a challenge stick around and show their charm and wit, and may land a date. Refer to mantra No. 4 (dog training) — along with boundaries, give rewards when due — leading to mantra No. 6 (value). A woman’s time, smile and interest are valuable and can be rewarded to the man who deserves her attention. Being icy or lukewarm at first also maintains an element of mystery. In addition, refer to mantra No. 5 (woman never pays). A man does not deserve a woman’s phone number without buying her and her friend(s) a drink, not to mention paying their entire bar tab."

No it's actually not anyone's right to be bitchy. When she says the weak men leave when she is dismissive, she's missing a key point. It's not weak men who leave, it's men who have options. If a woman is being a bitch upfront, no matter how hot she is, chances are she's going to be a bitch down the line as well. I don't know about you but I don't put up with that shit. Lastly I think she really shows us who she is when he says a man doesn't deserve a woman's phone number unless he buys drinks not only for her and their friends but pays their bar tab as well. That my friends is called prostitution. Fuck this bitch is retarded.

JS

Eben Pagen (David Deangelo) Wedding Vid WTF ?????????

Holy fucking shit this is weird!!!!!

Check out this video of David D getting married, in the WEIRDEST wedding vows ever!!!

David D gets married

I was going to break it down vow by vow like the Zapruder film, but instead I'm going to just cover some of my highlights.

First off it seems like Eben wrote these vows himself as if they were the marketing materials for some sort of hippy-fag program on relationships.

Secondly, this is the weirdest thing I've ever seen. I also showed it to a few girls I know and they confirm that they would have been creeped out enough to leave the ceremony.


Some highlights:

I vow to protect your solitude... Really isn't that kinda the opposite of a wedding vow??

What is that all white outfit Eben is wearing? Is this some sort of Bollywood movie that's just waiting for a dance ending?

That chick is beat. May we have a moment of silence for the idea that David D got hot chicks.

Why did they bring up their sex lives in their vows? It's almost like they were trying to convince me they actually have boney, nerdy, extremely pale sex with each other.

We will facilitate, momentous, opportunities to actualize... I don't even know what that means,

Their love is a crucible for evolution as well as conscious art. And here I just thought this was some rich asshole getting married.

Why am I not surprised that they mention Burning Man here, thus furthering my theory that Burning Man is for assholes.

Anyway what did you think of David D's wedding?

JS

Don't be Jealous-Be Happy for others.

File this under advice it took me awhile to be able to use.

One of the biggest problems I see with guys mindsets is the idea of jealousy. Most guys when they see someone else who is more successful than they are, get jealous or they look for reasons to justify why someone else has something they don't.

Instead of doing this, it's much easier and healthier to just be happy for that person. By "blessing" that which you want you send a mental signal that says it's ok to have that thing, and also it allows you to let go of any negative emotions you mat be hanging on to that are getting in the way of your own happiness.

So the next time you see some guy you know is no better than you with a girl you're attracted to, instead of torturing yourself trying to come up with the reasons she likes him, be happy for that guy and take it as inspiration that anything is possible.

Best,

JS-The King Of Content

Meet Girls- Volunteer

Just a quick thought I wanted to post today.

A great and overlooked place to meet girls is through doing volunteer work usually with animals or children.

Since I hate children, I volunteer at a dog rescue place in a very expensive part of LA by the ocean and have met several attractive and legitimately sweet girl to hook up with from there.

I also get to play with dogs and not have to take them home with me, which is a side benefit as I'm way too irresponsible to have a pet.

So there you go, check out some charities you could volunteer for in your city nad you'll end up meeting a lot more women.

JS-The King Of Content