This is Not For Everyone

Yo, yo, yo...

I've decided I'm going to start accepting private clients again. This is something that I have not done for a while, but it's the FASTEST way I know to get to a world class skill level at pick-up (the top 1%). So if you aspire to be ridiculously good with women, then this might be something you'd be interested in.

By ridiculously good, I mean being able to get legitimate 9 and 10s (actresses, models, dancers) regularly; consistent 10 minute lays; consistent same night and same day lays; threesomes on a regular basis, etc. This is the level that most pick-up instructors and guys that are simply "good" never get to.

Anyway, I'm looking to take one, maybe two private clients to work with me intensively for the next year. By intense I mean there will be regularly scheduled one-on-one coaching calls, personalized routine stacks, fashion consultations, and at least four weekends of live-infield training of just me and you. You'll also get access to the 12 Months to Mastery curriculum.

As you can tell, this training is NOT for everyone. I've found that the private clients that get the most out of this kind of training are typically between 32 and 45 years old. Most are successful businessmen that spent so much time and energy during their early years making money that they never learned how to get good with girls.

The important thing here is that they are successful guys that TAKE ACTION and are actually willing to implement the things we'll talk about.

As you might imagine, this program is NOT for everyone and is NOT going to be cheap. So please don't email me looking for a discount or giving me a reason why I should train you for free.

If you're reading this, you probably already know if this is right for you or not. If so, then send an email to sinnscoaching@yahoo.com with "Private Client Application Request" in the subject line and we'll begin the application process. Applications will be accepted until this Friday at midnight.

Again, I'm only taking at most two private clients and all things being equal, preference will be given to those that get their applications in first.

That's all I got for now,

Sinn

Podcast 10 is up...

http://sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%2010.mp3

S

The Male-Female Sexual Power Dynamic- Part 1

What’s up guys,

This is a post that probably most of you will be able to relate to.

I’m sure other people have talked about this before or it’s been posted about, but I feel like power and sex are two of the major issues in most male-female relationships.

When it comes to dating, the general power dynamic between men and women, looks something like this:

The girl generally has more power before sex, and the guy generally has more power after sex.

This is one of the reasons that girls will sometimes try to make you wait for sex or give last minute resistance. This is also one of the reasons why qualification, and demonstrating small amounts of investment in her work so well.

Guys will generally work and invest more in the girl in the courtship period before sex has happened. Many of you guys reading this ( myself included) are guilty of this. That’s one of the big reasons that girls have trust issues with guys.

We should all know by now that it’s unattractive to give all your power away for the chance of hooking up. But how do we deal with the fact that you will have less power in any interaction with a woman until you’ve had sex with her?

The first step to evening the power differential, is having personal boundaries and standards, and not compromising them for booty. This makes a much bigger difference with women than you can imagine. Boundaries and standards tell people a great deal about how you expect to be treated by women, and give a glimpse as to your level of success with them.

Next you need to consciously get the girl to invest in the interaction. Contrary to popular belief, a girl can be WAY more invested in a relationship than you are but she still holds the power edge until you have sex. Because she controls where the relationship ultimately goes. It is impossible to have a long term relationship without ever having sex. Imagine being married to a woman who will never have sex with you… Doesn’t sound like a great time, though it does sound like most people’s marriages ☺ So you get girls to invest by qualifying, and gradually increasing her compliance. It may seem simple, but asking her to bring something to a date or hold your drink for a second goes a long way.

Retain your power through decisiveness. Make sure that you are the one to plan dates, you’re the first one to get off the phone, and that you always take a little bit longer to return her calls and texts than she does. These things seem small but by being decisive and busy you retain power before and after sex.

All right that wraps up the first question on sex and power.

Sometime soon I’ll write about the second question.

How do you maintain a healthy balanced power ratio after sex?

Next time,

S

New Interview up On Charming Rogue

Hey guys,

I did an interview with Adonis over at Charming Rogue last week and it's up.

There's some good stuff on framing, Learning Game, and Same Day Lays.

Check it out at

http://charmingrogue.com/sinn-interview/

S

Response to responses to a response... I'm confused...

I agree with everyone's comments about Erika... There's a reason she's not on the blogroll or a teacher I endorse in any way shape or form.

But she did bring up the issue of complete 100% honesty with the multiple women I'm sleeping with, and I like to believe that I'm as honest as you can be and actually still get results.

I try to be as honest as possible in my life especially with women I'm seeing. However this is not ALWAYS possible as some honesties are hurtful to these same women.

So I think the real culprit in all of this is the completely hypocritical standards of 100% honesty that 100% of people don't live up to. And I'm talking in real life not just in the SUISC. I mean everyone lies to their parents, or their boss, or their spouse, or the homeless guy who asks you for change... But then the same people turn around and tell their kids to be completely honest when 100% honesty is not always the best policy in relationships of all types. between both genders.

I use to live by the rule of complete honesty! If someone was a douchebag, I told them how I felt. If a girl looked fat I would let her know. If a girl wanted to come over on anohter girl's night I would respond " Sorry sweetie, you know it's Val's night." This is a very anti-social way to go through the world! Even though I still probably call people and situations out too much, I have learned when to keep my mouth shut professionally and socially.

Erika and practicers of radical honesty or some other such spiritually aimed principle that demands no need for social tact, live in a fantasy world.

It would be really nice if we could all be 100% honest all the time with everyone and never have negative connotations from that. But it's not realistic. People get their feelings hurt, people get angry and then become vindictive, people overreact and extrapolate from small things... So sometimes lies of omission or little white lies to maintain someone's emotions are a good thing.

That's why I chose that comment, because it pisses me off when people get on their high horse about honesty in a mostly dishonest world...

S

Response to a comment

So I never respond to blog comments, strictly as a time management issue.

But self described polyamorist Erika left a comment that I thought needed a reply.

Here’s the comment to my post on retaining fuck buddies.

Erika wrote :


“Sadly, there are way too many girls who will hang around for a year, 18 months, two years, five years ... and then you'll see their unhappiness become HUGE. A girl who knows what she's doing will bail as soon as she feels annoyed. Then it never actually reaches the level of true unhappiness, and she can move on with her life with dignity.

I like your honesty, Sinn, but I'd like it even more if instead of avoiding the conversation, etc., you said flat out, this is NEVER going to be a long-term committed relationship and you (girl) need to know that.”


So the reason why I no longer tell girls that there will NEVER be a chance of a long term committed relationship, is because it’s extremely mean and it doesn’t work. It forces a girl into a win/lose situation where she has to decide if she even wants a long term relationship with me. As opposed to allowing things to develop at her pace...

It also can be extremely hurtful, and like an ultimatum, girls can make emotional decisions and then decide they aren’t ok with the situation later, at which point we’re back to where we started… Trust me I've dated a lot of girls who were "ok" with the fact we were just hooking up until two or three weeks later.

It’s also simply too limiting. While I’m certainly not looking for a long term or committed relationship, I do sometimes end up in them for a few weeks or months because it feels right at the time.

Bottom line is I never like to say never.

S

How To Retain F**k Buddies Part 3- The Conversation

I am sooo happy this week is almost over... It's been intense.

My car got impounded the other day, I cracked my Iphone screen and more. At least it's now Friday and after I finish this post I get to go shopping, and do some day game...

But before I get to go have fun I need to wrap this series up.

We already talked the last two days about scheduling, honesty and expectations.

We're going to conclude today with handling the DTR (Define the Relationship) conversation.

IME the DTR conversation will come up a couple of times. It first comes up around the 3 month mark, resurfaces at around a year and then becomes extremely serious at the 18 month mark. Your patterns may vary but for me the above is like the rising of the sun, death and taxes...

So being that this blog is about my experiences I'm going to give you the three types of DTR convos and what to do with each of them.

The first one is generally the least serious. Guys who are seeing 7 girls have not been seeing all 7 of them for more than 3 months...

This one will start innocuously with the girl making a joke and then asking " What are we?", or " Are you sleeping with other girls?"

Avoiding this first conversation is a good bet. I'll often purposely misinterrpret the question and try to side step it. By saying something like:

"we're humans..."

or " No I usually kick then out after. You're the only one who gets to stay over (smile)"

This will work about half the time. But it's really only a stall.

If she wants to seriously discuss the topic I will always say something like this

" We've only known each other X amount of months. And I really, really like you as a person. I'm super happy we hang out and I love talking to you. But I'm not really in a place where I can date anyone exclusively right now. So if that's something you're uncomfortable with,I totally understand that, and I really hope we can stay friends."

If a girl really likes you and is comfortable with that arrangement she'll stay. If not she won't.

Now the next one at around the year mark is a little more intense. Now it's been awhile and the girl might be questioning whether she's wasting her time with you.

IME this is the talk where you really have to be honest and let her know what's going on.

Be honest but not angry.

You don't want to give her ultimatiums, or make her feel like you don't care if she's in your life or not.

Instead you want to make sure that you don't lead her on with the fantasy of a relationship (Because let's be honest if it was going to happen, it would have within a year) but frame what you have as fun and non commital, until someone comes along that's better for her. Also emphasize ( If it's true) that you want her in your life in some capacity, but you want her to be comfortable with it.

Last one, the 18 month mark... This one is basically commit or lose the girl. IME girls are not going to hang around for two years with NO commitment from you. At this point you have to make a decision about whether or not you actually see yourself in a committed relationship with her. If you do, then tell her you want to be exclusive. If you don't tell her you just want to be friends.

You can stall the 18 month convo but it's only going to get worse for both of you.

That wraps up F**k buddies, have a great weekend.

S

How To Retain F**k Buddies Part 2-Honesty And Expectations

Welcome back guys,

Today I want to talk about the second part of retaining Fuck Buddies. Honesty and Expectations.

Once you’ve started seeing the girl once a week or once every couple of weeks, the next part of retention is honesty.

I personally believe in getting to know people really well before I date them exclusively. I usually have to know a girl for about 3 months before I’m ready to start calling her my girlfriend. I let girls know this upfront.

It’s very important that you let girls know your feelings on exclusivity right away. Now there is a major caveat that guys miss here… You don’t want to make the girl feel like a temporary option or a sexual plaything.

A student of mine recently told me that he was dating a girl and told her that while he would exclusively sleep with her, he was still going to date other girls. That’s basically like telling the girl you like her, until someone better comes along.

The overall vibe I adopt is that we are actually friends. In fact I tell the girl how much I appreciate her friendship. I hang out with these girls, the same way I hang out with my male friends. The only difference is that I don’t cuddle or hold hands with my guy friends!

The second thing I want to talk about is managing expectations. A lot of guys who are successful with women, lead girls on with the possibility of a monogamous relationship. You want to make sure that you actively manage her expectations of the relationship.

This means that you give her back the stuff she “leaves” at your place the next time you see her. It means you don’t say ambiguous things like “ who knows what can happen with us down the line.” If you don’t believe you’d actually date her exclusively.

One of the most powerful things I’ve learned from the SUISC is that you do not have to lie to girls to get sex. You can be honest ( and nice) about what you want and expect from her and she can decide if that’s something she wants to deal with.

Tomor we’ll wrap this up by talking about how to deal with the DTR conversation…

S

How To Retain F**k Buddies Part 1- Scheduling

Hey guys,

Happy Hump day, in more ways than one ☺

Today I want to start another advanced series on the blog. As everyone whose read my blog over the last few years knows, I’m not a big fan of monogamous relationships. Not because I think monogamy is wrong. I’m actually much more adamantly opposed to Polamory. But I just know that monogamy has no place in my current lifestyle/occupation. So since I don’t get into boyfriend/girlfriend type relationships, what do I do?

I keep between 3-7 fuck buddies around at all times. A fuck buddy is essentially a friend with benefits. Since I’m very good at this type of relationship, I wanted to write about it for guys having problems keeping girls interest after sex.

The first part of retaining a fuck buddy, comes the day after you have sex with her. Regardless of whether or not she spends the night ( I personally don’t always like having girls stay over) if you want to see her again in any capacity, you need to text or call her. A lot of girls get really insecure after they sleep with a guy. Especially if it’s the first night you met or your first date.

I like to send a very friendly, funny text message. Something that preferably plays on an inside joke from earlier. Here’s an example from a couple days ago where the girl was an environmentalist.

“ Hey you, I think we may not be able to hang out ever again… I just littered with a cigarette butt. It’s not you it’s me ☺”

What you don’t want to do if you only want an FB relationship is send something overly sentimental like “ I had a great time last night!” or “ I really like you”. Keep it casual.

Then the next step to retention is to not have the noticeable drop off in calls and texts. A lot of guys ( Myself included sometimes) tend to call or text girls less after they sleep with them. This has a lot to do with the male-female sexual power dynamic ( A blog post coming soon) but it’s always a mistake because it will make the girl start questioning things instead of just enjoying interacting with you.

Then you want to set up plans for a WEEKDAY. This is huge, when you’re dealing with fuck buddies it’s important that you see them once a week or once every two weeks. This is an extremely important schedule.

If you see them more often than once a week, they will start to expect a more committed relationship. If you see them less than every two weeks, then you’ll have problems with consistency.

Personally I like to see 3-4 girls a week, with one new date a week and two nights of gaming.

It’s also important that you don’t see the girl consistently on the same day every week. I used to do this with my rotation, until a few girls asked me why I only saw them on Thurs. Vary it up.

That takes care of scheduling, tomorrow I’ll talk about Honesty and Expectations.

S

The Power of Patience

What's up guys?

It's Tuesday and I've been completely swamped the last couple of days.

I'm on this new thing where I have to get 1 phone number a day during the daytime, it's partially to keep me from going out at night, and partially just because there are so many hot girls wandering around during the day.

As a result of this, I've been doing a lot of phone game.

I just sent out the basics of phone game to the guys subscribed to my newsletter yesterday. I also just finished Phone Game 2.0 and mailed that out to the members of my inner circle last week. To learn more about Sinn's Inner Circle, go to www.sinnsofattraction.com/sic

One of the things that I think really trips guys up on the phone is a lack of patience.

Unfortunately after you have exchanged phone numbers with a girl ( and hopefully set up a date) the ball is in her court. She can choose whether or not to return calls, texts, ims and smoke signals.

So all you can do is follow up in the correct way and hope you did a good enough job initially.

I had texted this girl yesterday and we went back and forth a couple of times before I escalated the texts in a sexual/flirty way. And nothing came back for 15, 30, 45, minutes... Finally she texted back an hour and a half later with a flirtier response.

The old me, would have spent the entire hour and a half, trying to figure out a clever high value way to text again and spark a response. But now I understand that you're only hurting yourself when you do that. It's much better to be patient give it a couple of hours and not worry about it.

At some point you have to believe the girl likes you, the sooner you do that and act accordingly the better things go on the phone.

S

Podcast # 9

Hey guys,

Podcast # 9 is up.

In it I give relationship advice, break down a field report and review Observe and Report.

http://bit.ly/SATC0009

S

Hypnotica and I are cool...

We came to an understanding like adults.

Now everyone else can do the same.

Have a great weekend everyone.

S

Common Female Thoughts Part 2

Hey guys,

I’m having a very interesting text conversation with a girl I’m seeing about dressing her up in nothing but a pencil skirt, business jacket and heels.

Which lead me to think about another female truism.

Women like sex as much if not more than men.

Understanding this is huge if you’re going to get better with women.

You have to get around all of the issues you may have about women being on pedestals, sex being dirty, or feelings of guilt for having sex with a girl you’re not going to commit to.

Women are like sex as much as men… if not more.

Remember, we don’t all get the ability to have multiple orgasms ☺

S

Podcast Ocho

New Podcast is up...

Check it out here:

http://sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%208.mp3

And on Itunes!

S

Tele-Seminar Tonight With AFC Adam and I

Hey guys,

Tonight AFC Adam and I will be having a free Tele-Seminar on Naturals and Attraction.

This will be some of my newest and most interesting breakthroughs in game.

You can get all the details at:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?preview=1&previewbar=1&eventid=6949686

Word.

S

5 Things every guy wants to do...

This is (I guess) a routine I’ve been using for awhile to set frames and open up sexual dialogues especially about threesomes. It's mostly just a random thought to illustrate that comfort talk doesn't have to be that magical..

I actually believe this and I started talking about it with girls in Comfort or on dates as an escalation thing.

I really like having theories, and ideas about various subjects and sharing them. It’s really the basis of my comfort game.

Here’s a rough breakdown as it comes out a little bit differently every time.

See that’s one of the things that girls just don’t understand about guys… Every guy has like 5 things they want to do.

Here we want to purposely bait her into asking what the 5 things are as opposed to telling her right away. This is a conversational tactic I do unconsciously now.

Ok the 5 things are

Pull a heist
Win a Lot of money at Poker
Knock some guy out
Fly in a Private Jet

And have a Threesome.

So I’ve done one out of 5. I have like 50 years to knock the other 4 off…

From there the girl will ask which one it was and then you can tease her by saying it was pulling a heist, or you can go suggestive and ask which one she thinks it was. That’s what I usually do, then I explain my position on threesomes, leading to asking her what kind of girls she likes….

Hope that helps people.

S

Hypnotica Clarification

Ok, so now Hypnotica seems to be trying to dodge the issue ( His IMO creepy and ineffective teaching style, and stuff he peddles to you guys looking for help) with another issue (Who is better with girls, him or I)

First, I don't care who is better with girls. I'm insanely happy with my sex life right now, and no longer feel the need to prove myself to anyone. I call this progress. I'm pretty sure I'd dominate the shit out of him in a nightclub, bar, or daytime cold approach. But it doesn't matter. I no longer subscribe to the "who's better" school of thinking or lame dick measuring culture contained within. If people can't see the value in what I have to teach and my student's success, so be it.

The issue here again IMO is Hypnotica's lame attempts to try to bully me out of my (informed) opinion. Through veiled threats and impotent challenges.

I've seen the dude on like 5 products. I have a Master's Prac in NLP, I've gone through all 3 of Hypnotica's products ( Deep Phone Seduction, The Sphinx Of The Imagination, and Core Confidence or whatever the fuck it was called) After watching all of that, in my opinion, what the dude is teaching is creepy, useless state pumping bullshit, and identity centric escalation models. It's nothing personal, I just don't believe a student can get better with your material. I'm sure it's what you THINK is working for you, but that's probably just because you're very into all of your hypnotic-woo-woo stuff. Not that there's anything wrong with that. It's just not practical for the average guy looking to get better with women.


No matter how much noise Hypnotica makes, this is not going to change. Nor will I be quiet about it when I'm asked for my opinion on products I've studied. You don't like it, move to somewhere without the freedom of speech...

Unless Hypnotica can show me something I'm not comprehending about what he's teaching, and using...

My opinion will remain the same...

If you want to shut me up Hypnotica, educate me about your methods and show me real results (for anyone) from your teachings.

Where are your student's success stories?

I've met Neil and Eben after you worked with them and their inner game... Not so good.

I've met students who did hours of EXPENSIVE one on one hypnosis with you and still couldn't approach girls in the real world...

I'm fully willing to " have my eyes opened." if you really believe in what you're doing and want to change my mind. If not, I'm still gonna give my opinion on it, when I'm asked about it.

My email address if you want to handle this like an adult instead of a nearly 40 year old toddler, is easy to guess, sinn at sinnsofattraction.com

This will be my final post about this situation, no matter how many comments you all leave.

We're back to content tomor.

And Sinn and The Cities Episode 8 will be up soon.

S

Healthy Living Equals Better State

We all know that state is extremely important when it comes to… well life. But one of the interesting things I’ve noticed, is that your body will actually reward you for doing the right things.

Play a couple games of pickup basketball, feel glowing, alive and refreshed.

Smoke a bunch of cigarettes and get drunk(Which is fun at the time) leaves you dehydrated, gross feeling and tired…

Pick up is very similar to self help. As you become a better person, you get better results with women. Everything in your life either helps or hurts your game. That doesn’t mean you need to rush out there and worry about what dish washing detergent attracts women better. But you should look at what habits and lifestyle choices will help you get the results you want.

If we know we do better at pick up when we are in state, we should aim to be in state as much of the time as possible. If we live a healthy lifestyle, we will be in state more and stack yet another odd in our favor. Which is mostly what game is about anyway…

Tele-Seminar With Mehow and I on Natural Attraction

Hey guys,

Yesterday I did a tele-seminar with Mehow where I revealed all the secrets of Natural Attraction, that Naturals don't want you to know!

You can listen to the replay here:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=6919698

Be sure to fast forward through the first 5-6 mins of silence as we got started a bit late...

S

Open Letter To Hypnotica

So I’ve gotten a lot of comments about Hypnotica apparently vowing to change my mind on his creepiness.

Since I’m nothing if not open minded, I am openly inviting Hypnotica to come down here and attempt to change my mind about his tactics and techniques. I’ll even volunteer to be a guinea pig.

And then I’ll post a completely unbiased review of your methods. If they blow my mind and do all you claim they do, I'll post that. If they are a creepy wannabe magic bullet I'll post that as well.

If you really want to convince me I’m willing to give you a fair chance to.

Your move chuckles, either put your money where your mouth is, or shut the fuck up.

S