Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Podcast # 6- Random Thoughts
In here, I discuss Polyamory, the struggle between being a player and being domestic, the grocery store and more...
http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%206.mp3
We're looking into submitting to Itunes this week, so stay tuned for that.
S
Monday, March 30, 2009
Momentum
Welcome back to the blog, I've been CRAZY busy. I'm doing a ton of photography and work stuff to make sure that you guys get the best newest information out there on Dating science.
One of the biggest concepts to me when I'm out meeting girls, is the idea of momentum. Savoy was the first one I heard use the term emotional momentum. But to me there are more places you can build momentum than simply a woman's emotions.
Momentum is defined by Dictionary.com as " force or speed of movement; impetus, as of a physical object or course of events"
So how does that relate to pickup?
In pickup, momentum refers to the overall amount of positive compliance you're getting from girls on various channels of the interaction. When you're "On" you generally have a ton of momentum as EVERYTHING that could possibly go right, does. Your jokes hit and the girls touch you, you go for movement and the girls eagerly come along, if you have enough momentum occasionally girls will even suggest taking you home.
Why is Momentum so important?
Momentum is important because as you start to get positive reactions from women, you will want to build on them as quickly as possible. By utilizing the concept of momentum, you allow yourself the best possible chance of moving the interaction forward. Ideally you want to make all of your escalation attempts at the highest possible point of momentum. Momentum has been described as alternatively as buying temperature. The basic idea being that it is easiest to escalate, immediately after an emotional spike. Now this can be positive or negative as it is easier to escalate after back turns, teases, etc... But those are merely examples of techniques that spike emotions.
How can you tell you have momentum in an interaction?
You can tell you have momentum when everything seems to be working easily and smoothly. You suggest moving and the girl is into it, you suggest a bounce and she readily agrees, you tease her and she explodes laughing and grabs you. Basically when you can get away with anything and the overall emotional graph of the interaction is at a high level, you develop momentum.
How is it generated?
Momentum is generated by getting girls to comply on multiple levels. These levels are Verbal, Logistical, Physical, and frames. By consistently getting the girl to say yes to small escalations, a snowball of momentum builds that eventually leads to larger escalations.
Be aware though momentum can build in a negative way as well. If you tease a girl when she's being nice or tyring to convince you she's cool, then you can generate negative momentum where a girl will actually begin to be mean to you after it was on.
The next time you go out, try to keep an idea on what level of momentum you have either positive or negative.
Off to the Gym to play some basketball, hopefully I'll shake off some of the rust from the last month,
S
Thursday, March 26, 2009
New Podcast!
http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%205.mp3
S
Monday, March 23, 2009
Cool Blog
So I'm stumbling and I came across a really cool blog.
It's called the positivity blog.
Check it out here:
http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/04/02/16-things-i-wish-they-had-taught-me-in-school/
I'm gonna add it to the sidebar too, mostly so I can check it regularly...
S
Self-Value, Inner Game and Expectations...
I really enjoy the social aspect of smoking and will have a conversation (Not about Pickup with dudes who recognize me and offer me cigarettes BTW) with almost anyone about almost anything. So today when I went to go get a delicious french sandwich, I wanted a cigarette. I had one in my car but didn't have a lighter. Enter said crackhead. And we were outside a rehab center, and he told me he was there for crack so no assumptions on my part :)
But I digress...
A hottie walked by
The crackhead couldn't even really look at her...
About 3 minutes later a GROSS druggy looking chick walked by and the Crackhead started o chat her up. It was basically a pick-up.
As I finished my cigarette and walked away, I couldn't help but start to think about what that said about the idea of self perceived value....
The same guy who didn't feel comfortable looking at a really beautiful women felt comfortable and compatible with the other crackhead...
This relates back to the idea that some girls are going to just like YOU for being YOU...
I know it's hard to believe... some of them are even VERY attractive.
Now I don't want to suggest that the crackhead would have connected with the really hot girl, but the point is that in his mind he can;t even look that girl in the eye.
I see this in a ton of students. They can't EVEN imagine a super hottie liking them... I had some of the 12M2M guys watch go-go dancers in the club and try to imagine having sex with them... They couldn't do it. It was literally " outside their reality."
Everyone of us has a self image(read Psycho-Cybernetics for an indepth explanation and exercises on working on your own self image). In that self image we have an idea of what kind of girls should like us, what kind of success with women we should have, and even what other people's reactions to us are going to be.
This self image is based on nothing other than our own opinions of ourselves ( Which as Psycho-Cybernetics tells us is often an underestimation)
All of this shows the importance of first believing that success is possible for you. Not for me, not for Mystery, not for any of us. You have to believe at a core level that you can attract and date attractive women.
Otherwise you're no better than a crackhead :)
S
Friday, March 20, 2009
Sinns Of Attraction Forum is now open!
We have a forum, I will be posting there personally on a 3 x a week basis as well as doing Q and As and chats.
Be sure to sign up for it!
www.Sinnsofattraction.com/forum
See ya on there...
S
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Become my friend on MySpace and Facebook Now!
I did it to get a chance to have closer communication with all the guys out there struggling in the scene. Though I will also be offering special deals on products, dates for special free talks (Really free not RSD's version of free), and much, much more.
Become my friend on Myspace by going to http://www.myspace.com/sinnsofattraction
Become my Facebook friend by going to http://www.facebook.com/inbox/readmessage.php?t=1108035576150&mbox_pos=0#/profile.php?id=1163169878&ref=name
Cool, cool...
S
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Episode # 4 Sinn and The Cities.
Here's the link to listen to this week's Podcast.
http://www.sinnandthecities.com/audio/Sinn%20and%20the%20Cities%20-%204.mp3
There's some cool stuff in this one.
S
Monday, March 16, 2009
You Might be a Douchebag If... Part 1: You Wear Sunglasses Indoors
Time to use my blog as it was meant to be used in the classical sense; Talking shit.
So I decided I'd start a feature where I talk about things that might make you a douchbag.
You're not necessarily a DB if you do one or two of these things, but the more you do the more you're DB quotient climbs into the red or "Matador" zone.
So today we're talking like an 80s song as I explore the horrors of wearing your Sunglasses at Night. Or Indoors during the day.
I was on the phone with my buddy Cam earlier and we tried to think of a situation other than one recommended by a Dr where it's not uber Douchey to wear Sunglasses inside.
Not only do you make it so that people can't see your eyes, but you basically spray paint in neon block letters that you're "too cool". It's lame, as fuck.
Plus for people who wear Sunglasses when they're in a FUCKING nightclub... How do you see?
Shit, sometimes I have trouble seeing my way around clubs normally...
Also they're called Sunglasses, what kind of sun are you worried about in a nightclub?
Sunglasses.... Nightclub.....
Sun and night tend to be mutually exclusive.
When I eventually take over the world, this form of douchebaggery will be punishable by death.
S
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Another lame post about a girl I have my latest crush on...
But I met another really awesome girl...
For some reason I'm really dialed in right now on which girls I'm going to click with right away...
And I'm meeting a lot of really really awesome girls.
I think part of that can be ascribed to a big switch to day game, but I've met some pretty awesome girls at night recently too...
And I wonder why?
What changed?
What made everything soo much easier and better all of a sudden?
I think leaving Dallas definitely helped, but I honestly think the biggest difference comes from just not thinking about game as much. I've been soo busy looking for places to live, and planning stuff, and watching Dwayne Wade's month for the ages, I haven't been thinking or talking game much at all. And my results got better, because all the other stuff I was spending energy on were things women could relate to, help out with, and suggest things for. I could actually talk about my life with girls and have them intrigued. And yes I still consistently talk to girls about sports and explain individual accomplishments... No, I won't teach you how to for free.
But this new girl is pretty amazing, She's really hot and right on the border of too tall (5-8) she's really smart and articulate and not only keeps up with me but has made me laugh out loud through text a few times... She did get me sick already though, so that's not cool.
I'm definitely thinking about her way too much(Not to mention the mutual calling/texting) which is not good when I'm only here temporarily.
It's actually somewhat disturbing to me that I keep having these really deep connections with girls where I'm not actually DOING anything specifically. I tell them what I like abou them and that I want to have sex with them... Sounds simple, but I keep creating reactions I used to have to implement Breakthrough Comfort to get...
This is starting to feel like a rambling post... So I'm gonna go take some more Dayquil and go back to bed.
S
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
The Joys of Dating
I'm sick as hell today...
I was super sick yesterday too, but I had my first date lined up down here and she had agreed to come over in a skirt and bring a camera... So I couldn't miss that.
So I downed a half bottle of dayquil, 6 excederin's and went out on the date.
Right after we had sex, the Dayquil wore off and I became a hacking gagging mess that couldn't sleep... So today I'm paying for my sins.
But all of that got me thinking...
I've basically quit doing night game over the last month or so. I got pretty sick of always being drunk or hung over, dealing with getting in places, annoying club people etc...
So I switched to Day Game, which also means going back to doing dates.
Don't get me wrong you can get Same Day Lays from a day time approach ( In fact I talked about it at Mehow's 10ssa program last weekend) but for the most part you're going to have go on a date from daytime approaches.
Now I used to really dislike dates, but after having taken a big break from them, I'm really into them.
First of all the extra phone and text time makes framing and teasing SOOO much easier. In fact when you add in little compliance hoops like making her wear a skirt(Credit Savoy) or bring a camera, or any number of other random things, it makes not getting laid really hard.
Second, you actually get a chance to progressively control logistics, last night I took the girl to two photography exhibits, a hookah lounge and then back to my place. By knowing where you're going and when, you can constantly know where you are.
Third you can completely avoid the surprises of SNLs and logistics.
And lastly you can start the date at your place so you're SURE to get a chance to try to escalate in a private location.
Anywhoo,
I'm off to bed,
Best,
S
Monday, March 09, 2009
Check Out My Free 7-Part Video Course!
I just put the finishing touches on a Free 7-part video course entitled, “How To Approach And Attract The Women Of Your Dreams.” It has a lot of information on approaching and attracting beautiful women that I’m sure you’ll find very valuable.
To review Part 1, simply head over to my home page at
http://www.sinnsofattraction.
(Note: if you're already a subscriber to my email newsletter, you do NOT need to sign up again to get the rest of the videos. You'll be getting them automatically.)
Please check out the videos and leave your comments here. I really appreciate the feedback.
Best,
Sinn
P.S. Do you know anyone else do you know who may be interested in these videos? If so, I’d appreciate it if you could send them over to http://www.sinnsofattraction.
Thursday, March 05, 2009
Last Tele-Seminar Update!
Less than 3 Hours until the Tele-Seminar...
We have had a last minute surge of registrations for tonight’s tele-seminar for which you are registered.
Because of this we are “oversold.” We are in the process of trying to add more lines but that might not be possible.
However, I was able to arrange to have the tele-seminar broadcasted live over the Internet. So if you are unable to get through, you can listen in here:
http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=6388356
To ensure that you get a spot for this tele-seminar, it is imperative that you call or sign in online 5 minutes early.
If you don’t, you might be locked out.
Here are the details:
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Topic:
“Five Keys for Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle in 2009”
Date: Thursday, March 5 2009
Time: 5:00 PM PST or 8:00 PM EST (You can and should call in 5 minutes early)
Phone #: 419-400-0202
Passcode: 577602# (remember to press the #!)
Live web feed: http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=6388356
Cost: Free
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Best,
Sinn
CALL TONIGHT!
If you haven’t registered yet for the free teleseminar tonight at 5:00 PM Pacific time, please do so immediately, we only have a few lines left available.
Here is the original email for your convenience:
On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited.
The topic is:
“Five Keys For Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle In 2009!”
As a very special treat, the legendary Scotty from On the Mat will be joining me on the call! He’s going to be sharing his inside secrets of for living a lifestyle that even most “Master PUAs” envy.
Here’s some of what we’ll cover:
• How to meet and seduce stunningly beautiful women without ever doing a “cold approach” ever again!
• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!
• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminate any “fear of rejection” you might have!
• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!
• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!
Want to be part of this FREE teleseminar?
Go here:
http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar
Best,
Sinn
P.S. I only have 400 lines held for the teleseminar so if you want to be part of it, you must register right away. http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar
Wednesday, March 04, 2009
New Podcast! Plus Links that actually work for the last 2:)
Major Props to Chris from 12M2M again...
For hooking you guys up.
http://sofa.pdot.com/audio/
S
P.S about The Tele-Seminar!
About a hundred guys have emailed me, telling me that the have gotten an error notice when they tried to sign up for the Tele-Seminar registration page.
This is normal.
All it means is that you are ALREADY on my list.
You can still call in to the number that has been both emailed and posted several times.
Just in case, here it is again...
Phone #: 419-400-0202 (be sure to call in 5 minutes early!)
Access Code: 577602# (remember to press the #!)
See ya guys on there!
S
Is 60 Minutes Really Enough Time?
Hey,
Since I announced this teleseminar, a few people have asked me whether 60 minutes is really enough time to learn how to design your ultimate lifestyle for 2009.
I understand the skepticism. So I'd I thought you might be interested in what a student of mine, Xander, who saw me speak at an event last year had to say:
www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar
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On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited.
• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!
• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminate any “fear of rejection” you might have!
• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!
• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!
Tuesday, March 03, 2009
Update on Tele-Seminar!
The lines for this call filled up the day after I announced it, so I doubled the capacity. If you still want to join and haven’t registered yet, I have about 25 spots left.
--Sinn
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On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited. The topic is:
“Five Keys For Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle In 2009!”
As a very special treat, the legendary Scotty from On the Mat will be joining me on the call! He’s going to be sharing his inside secrets for living a lifestyle that even most “Master PUAs” envy.
Here’s some of what we’ll cover:
• How to meet and seduce stunningly beautiful women without ever doing a “cold approach” ever again!
• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!
• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminates any “fear of rejection” you might have!
• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!
• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!
Want to be part of this FREE teleseminar? Go here:
http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar
Best,
Sinn
P.S. I only have 400 lines held for the teleseminar so if you want to be part of it, you must register right away. http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar
Lifestyle Part 3: The People You Know
It's a beautiful day in my(new) neighborhood. So go ahead, get comfortable and I'll talk to you guys about the MOST important resource when it comes to building a lifestyle.
The People You Know.
No matter what kind of lifestyle you want to live, you are going to need to surround yourself with like minded people.
If you want to establish a club social circle, that means getting to know promoters, doormen, bouncers, bartenders, etc...
If you want to meet women through your yoga class, it means meeting and befriending the most social people in the class.
If you're still in college or high school, it means making friends with "The popular kids."
No matter what goals you've mapped out for yourself lifestyle wise, you need to meet the right people to make it happen.
So how does one go about doing that?
It's actually not as difficult as you think.
1. Identify who you want to meet. This part should be common sense enough that I don't have to write it, but I'll do it anyway. Figure out who you need to meet first. I personally keep a list of people I want to meet, ranging from the manager at my local strip club to Bill Simmons.
2. Offer Value FIRST! This is something I learned directly from Scotty of OTM.com. It's also the major mistake guys make when they're trying to "network". Most guys teaching social circle game focus on what the other people can do for you. This is a nice way of thinking short term, but often doesn't lead to long term friendships or great "hookups". One of the things Scotty ALWAYS does is see if he can help the people he needs help from first. This can be as simple as bringing female friends with you to the club and introducing them to the promoter. It can mean offering to help someone with something you have more knowledge about, or sharing a connection you have to help them. The point is much like a cold approach, you ALWAYS want to give value first.
3. Maintain contact in a NON needy way. Another mistake I've seen in some unnamed social circle programs being taught out there, is the idea of maintaining contact. You don't want to always be the guy asking to get "hooked up" or only phone, or text when you want something. Make sure that you keep in contact with all the people in your phone on a regular basis. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate, a simple text a few times a week often is more than enough. Also if someone has just done you a favor, be sure to text a thank you. People appreciate these small gratitudes.
4. Invite Everyone Everywhere. This means that you make it a point to go out of your way to invite people places. This is huge in building a social circle. So many people want others to lead and plan things out, so they can just show up. Be the exception to this rule, by always having something to invite people to. A promoter friend of mine in Dallas will often send out invites to private dinners and lunches, just to keep in touch. It doesn't matter if 1 person shows up or 20. If you keep planning things and networking, people will show.
5. Have female friends. This is a huge one. I know that a lot of guys reading this haven't gotten laid in a REALLY long time, and the idea of hanging out with an attractive woman and not making a move, sounds worse than tortue. Do it anyway. Girls make EVERY situation more fun and more enticing for everyone. By having girls around, other girls will be more likely to come by, cool guys will want to hang out etc... Everyone should make3-5 ATTRACTIVE female friends.
That wraps up today's post, be sure to be back soon for the conclusion.
S
Monday, March 02, 2009
Free Lifestyle Tele-Seminar This Thursday
On Thursday, March 5 at 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time (8:00 p.m. Eastern), I am hosting a free tele-seminar and you are invited. The topic is:
“Five Keys For Designing the Ultimate Lifestyle In 2009!”
As a very special treat, the legendary Scotty from On the Mat will be joining me on the call! He’s going to be sharing his inside secrets of for living a lifestyle that even most “Master PUAs” envy.
Here’s some of what we’ll cover:
• How to meet and seduce stunningly beautiful women without ever doing a “cold approach” ever again!
• How to easily get “VIP treatment” wherever you go!
• A step-by-step system for attracting beautiful women that eliminate any “fear of rejection” you might have!
• “How to design your life so you’re automatically meeting the type of women that YOU really want!
• How to build a life that gives you TRUE satisfaction and enjoyment no matter what you’re into!
Want to be part of this FREE teleseminar? Go here:
http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar
Best,
Sinn
P.S. I only have 400 lines held for the teleseminar so if you want to be part of it, you must register right away. http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/teleseminar